Sunday, June 7, 2009
alrighty, time for some talking. i wish i knew how to handle situations better. because right now, im in a tough situation. im in a relationship with somebody, but now as i come to realize, we have absolutely nothing in common, and we are always disagreeing about something. if i dare to suggest anything besides watching a movie or fooling around, then he wants nothing to do with it. what i mean is, when im in a relationship, i put alot of myself into it. i devote alot of my own personal time to this person, because i care. but if the person i am dating doesnt care enough to listen to some of my ideas or to maybe do something that they dont necessarily want to do to make me happy, then i cant take it. now i dont mean doing something that they absolutely hate just to make me happy, but i mean, just cuz you dont WANT to do something, doesnt mean that your significant other doesnt either. you have to make sacrifices sometimes in relationships. when it comes down to it, a relationship is about 2 people. and both of those peoples personal opinions come into play. both of their wants and needs. not just the one persons. you have to be able to compromise and work things out amongst eachother. otherwise, your not in a relationship. your 2 completely seperate people who talk to each other, or should i say argue with each other all the time. am i really asking too much from a relationship? to be honest, i just want to be treated like a girlfriend. not just that person that your standing next to, or just that person on the phone. i just want to be happy. thats all. am i being to harsh? am i asking too much? i dont know. but i do know how a person should be treated. and i dont feel that i am being treated the way i should be. well. im done for now. ill write later. comment if you feel you have any advise. thanks- Katy
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When it comes to relationships, every single person wants something different. Some want to find comfortableness, some wish for stability, an even others for a sense of compromise between the two. The thing you have to decide is if what you want and what he wants are the same thing. He may just be interested in having a comfortableness, someone to go to when he feels weak., while you want a bit of a stability, someone who is willing to stay with you because he cares about your comfort before his. The cardinal rules of relationships are simple, first establish you have a feeling, not necessarily a connection, but a feeling, then talk about what you expect in this relationship. You might not exactly like what the other person might say but that's when you can decide if you want to compromise. Just bring this up and talk about it. Figure out his intentions.
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